I am not faint of heart! I am not to make faint of someone’s heart. This is a real world with real opposition. So, I gladly embrace the opposition that may come.
Wonderful people…guess what I am discussing today?! The human ego. When in balance, it produces great and sensible actions. When out of balance, it produces treachery, fear and falsehood.
I think I will begin with the women’s ego. Ladies, do not shoot me with a verbal/written/literal AK-47. Just read and assess. Women fulfill many roles in many societies. They have acted as queens, military strategists, nurses, mothers, sisters, carriers of water, cooks, managers, secretaries, architects, real estate agents, community organizers and many other things. Women are more than capable beings. Unfortunately, women globally have been oppressed by imbalanced patriarchy, dominating religion and male chauvinism. Oppression breeds contempt. Now, who wants to be dictated constantly? I believe it is safe to say no one.
During oppressing times for women, the psyche developed coping mechanisms, selected memory storage, unfavorable impressions of the oppressor(s) and a possible resentment towards others that appear as member of the oppressor/oppressive group. To any logical mind, this seems to be a fair response. But, let’s look at a couple of things. In nature, females are mothers. For most, mother equals caring. The polarity of woman’s character is viciousness, cunning, manipulative and hunters. There are several species of female insects and mammals that are mean! Black Widow spiders kills the male spider after mating. Praying mantis will engage in a courtship. If the female is literally hunger, she will eat the head or leg of her partner after sex. There are human females that purpose to be mean and devious toward human males, as if it is their “womanly duty”.
Another thing to consider is the need for a woman’s egotistical whims to be satisfied constantly. Everyone likes a genuine compliment from time to time. There seems to be an rapacious need for a woman to receive compliments, genuine or questionable. Additionally, many women have the expectation that a man will fulfill a long list of desires like working consistently to cover financial responsibilities, do indoor/outdoor home chores, spend a great amount of time with her, buy her things on a regular basis, take her out regularly, constantly provide compliments and pretend as if other women don’t exist on planet Earth. Is this fueled by an imbalanced ego that creates an insatiable “appetite”?
Now, I’ll get to the men. In modern society, the ego seem to be strictly assigned to men. It is a terrible myth that many men have fallen victim and allowed the usage to be abusive to others. In this blog post, please note that I do respect the ‘man codes’ and will not divulge all of our secrets. I desire to not be kicked out of the brotherhood. Haha
Unfortunately, men around the global have not felt a dire need to check one’s ego. In imbalanced male patriarchal, it is a disregarded option. The effect has been many hurt and disappointed family/community members, rapes, fights, wars, company takeovers, unplanned pregnancies, jail/prison sentences, broken homes, domestic violence, among other things. These are not good things at all. Some men wonder why the general public are distrusting of their forthcoming actions. A balanced ego will help to solve the public unease. It is understood that nature offers several levels of competitiveness. Man competes with the world, so to speak, on a daily basis. Since one of his main roles in many societies is to be a provider, he must go into the world to hunt for what is necessary. The competition pool may be small (living in a village, small town) to enormous (living in a large metropolis). This encourages an innate ego boost as a method of survival and personal inspiration. When a man is deemed as “successful” to family/peers/community members, he may give all credit to self and an ego that boost self-value. If the man does not have internal and external factors to regulate a healthy ego, then the ego inflates and causes problem. People will begin to refer to him as “jerk”, “jackass”, “prick”, “asshole”, “bastard”, so on and continued. Needless to say, those are not good descriptions.
As the title begs an answer…who pushes their agenda the hardest, men or women? Please leave your responses in the comments below. Don’t forget to share friends/family/colleagues. Thank you for your time and cooperation.