Who pushes agenda the hardest?

I am not faint of heart!  I am not to make faint of someone’s heart.  This is a real world with real opposition.  So, I gladly embrace the opposition that may come.

Wonderful people…guess what I am discussing today?! The human ego.  When in balance, it produces great and sensible actions. When out of balance, it produces treachery, fear and falsehood.

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I think I will begin with the women’s ego. Ladies, do not shoot me with a verbal/written/literal AK-47.  Just read and assess. Women fulfill many roles in many societies. They have acted as queens, military strategists, nurses, mothers, sisters, carriers of water, cooks, managers, secretaries, architects, real estate agents, community organizers and many other things.  Women are more than capable beings.  Unfortunately, women globally have been oppressed by imbalanced patriarchy, dominating religion and male chauvinism. Oppression breeds contempt. Now, who wants to be dictated constantly?  I believe it is safe to say no one.

During oppressing times for women, the psyche developed coping mechanisms, selected memory storage, unfavorable impressions of the oppressor(s) and a possible resentment towards others that appear as member of the oppressor/oppressive group.  To any logical mind, this seems to be a fair response. But, let’s look at a couple of things.  In nature, females are mothers. For most, mother equals caring. The polarity of woman’s character is viciousness, cunning, manipulative and hunters.  There are several species of female insects and mammals that are mean! Black Widow spiders kills the male spider after mating. Praying mantis will engage in a courtship. If the female is literally hunger, she will eat the head or leg of her partner after sex. There are human females that purpose to be mean and devious toward human males, as if it is their “womanly duty”.

Another thing to consider is the need for a woman’s egotistical whims to be satisfied constantly. Everyone likes a genuine compliment from time to time.  There seems to be an rapacious need for a woman to receive compliments, genuine or questionable. Additionally, many women have the expectation that a man will fulfill a long list of desires like working consistently to cover financial responsibilities, do indoor/outdoor home chores, spend a great amount of time with her, buy her things on a regular basis, take her out regularly, constantly provide compliments and pretend as if other women don’t exist on planet Earth.  Is this fueled by an imbalanced ego that creates an insatiable “appetite”?

Now, I’ll get to the men. In modern society, the ego seem to be strictly assigned to men.  It is a terrible myth that many men have fallen victim and allowed the usage to be abusive to others.  In this blog post, please note that I do respect the ‘man codes’ and will not divulge all of our secrets. I desire to not be kicked out of the brotherhood.  Haha

Unfortunately, men around the global have not felt a dire need to check one’s ego. In imbalanced male patriarchal, it is a disregarded option.  The effect has been many hurt and disappointed family/community members, rapes, fights, wars, company takeovers, unplanned pregnancies, jail/prison sentences, broken homes, domestic violence, among other things.  These are not good things at all.  Some men wonder why the general public are distrusting of their forthcoming actions. A balanced ego will help to solve the public unease.  It is understood that nature offers several levels of competitiveness. Man competes with the world, so to speak, on a daily basis.  Since one of his main roles in many societies is to be a provider, he must go into the world to hunt for what is necessary.  The competition pool may be small (living in a village, small town) to enormous (living in a large metropolis). This encourages an innate ego boost as a method of survival and personal inspiration.  When a man is deemed as “successful” to family/peers/community members, he may give all credit to self and an ego that boost self-value.  If the man does not have internal and external factors to regulate a healthy ego, then the ego inflates and causes problem.  People will begin to refer to him as “jerk”, “jackass”, “prick”, “asshole”, “bastard”, so on and continued.  Needless to say, those are not good descriptions.

As the title begs an answer…who pushes their agenda the hardest, men or women?  Please leave your responses in the comments below.  Don’t forget to share friends/family/colleagues. Thank you for your time and cooperation.

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The Fear of Organic Masculinity

There has been a lot of talk lately about the disconnect of older and younger generations.  I believe it is painfully apparent.  In the latest post at Easpoet’s Blog, I will not delve into that topic.  But, I would like to share personal experiences that serve as supporting evidence of the tragic nature of a non-communicative community of souls.

I have worked with youth in varying capacities, throughout the years.  One of the many things I enjoy in the line of “work” (actually, I see it as a responsibility) is the level of honesty within children.  Yesterday, I was fulfilling my duties as volunteer at a local Brooklyn nonprofit.  A fellow volunteer suggested that the male child work with me.  He refused.  Then, a female child interjected by saying “I don’t wanna work with him either. He scares me!  His voice is too deep!”  That moment alone sparked deep thoughts surrounding the embrace, or the lack thereof, of organic masculinity.

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Unfortunately, yesterday’s sentiments were not the first time I’ve encountered a great uneasiness from children.  From late teens until present times, my face has carried a significant amount of facial hair.  Generally, small children under 5 would be alarmed by seeing facial hair on a man.  Strange, huh?! I have realized that a cultural norm in USA is shaving.  It is an activity I have despised and disturbs my skin health (an ongoing problem for men of deep color).  USA’s “culture” strongly discourages facial hair in many segments of society.  Within the last three years, a man sporting a beard has been an expression “okay’d” by the dictates of fashion trending.  Is this move ‘organic’ or ‘inorganic’, though?

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Now, I will delve into entertainment for a moment.  Let us take a moment to reflect on the most popular male entertainers from the preceding sixty (60) years.  Names like James Brown, Chuck Berry, Michael Jackson, Prince, David Bowie, Marvin Gaye, John Lennon should have come to mind.  All were/are considered groundbreaking artistes for different reasons.  Allow your mind to see where I am going with this.  The common denominator is each entertainer had an overt feminine presence/presentation.  You may wonder why Marvin Gaye’s name appeared.  He was included for the same reasons as Michael Jackson, Prince and John Lennon.  These men had higher than normal singing voices.  The recording industry discovered a way to neutralize or cancel any overt masculine expressions within these men.  Please know that the assessment is not a personal attack on any of these men.  Unfortunately, they were products of manipulation of money-worshiping record executives.  Each man had millions of female fanatics.  Do women actually appreciate organic masculinity?

I continue to use United States of America as prime cultural example for a reason.  This nation’s influence in the world has been incredible.  In my opinion, it is not a good thing.  Many people global emulate the latest American cultural exports.  I would say the cultural import responsible for this is european societal norms.  As one may flip through photographs and paintings of men from greco-roman, british, pre-medieval, medieval and modern times, it becomes quite difficult to make a distinction between a male and female.  According to my knowledge, this is very intentional.  Again, I am not attacking european culture, per se.  I am providing my understanding of a lack of traits deemed masculine.  The misconstrued history books that many of us have read states that european settlers (British, French, Spanish, Italian, Dutch) founded the new land to become known globally as ‘United States of America’.  So….there you have it! The revelation has come on the reason why european culture has such prevalence in USA. ( a little humor, I hope.)

As this post scoffed at the current trend of big beards among men, there is another component that thinks positively.  I am happy with the fact that men are allowing the natural growth of facial and body hairs.  In opposition to, I do find it appalling that the crazed, psychotic fashion committee of the world has to give its “stamp of approval”.  Come on, men!  Allow testosterone and hormones do its biological/physiological duties.

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In conclusion, I am full support of the new age movements that have been happening globally/cosmically.  The influx of corrective, healing and balancing energies on planet Earth are most necessary for the continuation of life.  I am certain that EVERYONE is feeling and observing the differences in life’s requirements.  Masculinity, as it once was known in USA, was drenched in discrimination, privilege, imbalance, flared ego, misogyny, disrespect, dogma and lack of spirituality.  Now, masculinity must balance and be a full understanding with proper use and application of feminine energies.  Once the balance is in place with each individual, then fear shall subside.