Who pushes agenda the hardest?

I am not faint of heart!  I am not to make faint of someone’s heart.  This is a real world with real opposition.  So, I gladly embrace the opposition that may come.

Wonderful people…guess what I am discussing today?! The human ego.  When in balance, it produces great and sensible actions. When out of balance, it produces treachery, fear and falsehood.

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I think I will begin with the women’s ego. Ladies, do not shoot me with a verbal/written/literal AK-47.  Just read and assess. Women fulfill many roles in many societies. They have acted as queens, military strategists, nurses, mothers, sisters, carriers of water, cooks, managers, secretaries, architects, real estate agents, community organizers and many other things.  Women are more than capable beings.  Unfortunately, women globally have been oppressed by imbalanced patriarchy, dominating religion and male chauvinism. Oppression breeds contempt. Now, who wants to be dictated constantly?  I believe it is safe to say no one.

During oppressing times for women, the psyche developed coping mechanisms, selected memory storage, unfavorable impressions of the oppressor(s) and a possible resentment towards others that appear as member of the oppressor/oppressive group.  To any logical mind, this seems to be a fair response. But, let’s look at a couple of things.  In nature, females are mothers. For most, mother equals caring. The polarity of woman’s character is viciousness, cunning, manipulative and hunters.  There are several species of female insects and mammals that are mean! Black Widow spiders kills the male spider after mating. Praying mantis will engage in a courtship. If the female is literally hunger, she will eat the head or leg of her partner after sex. There are human females that purpose to be mean and devious toward human males, as if it is their “womanly duty”.

Another thing to consider is the need for a woman’s egotistical whims to be satisfied constantly. Everyone likes a genuine compliment from time to time.  There seems to be an rapacious need for a woman to receive compliments, genuine or questionable. Additionally, many women have the expectation that a man will fulfill a long list of desires like working consistently to cover financial responsibilities, do indoor/outdoor home chores, spend a great amount of time with her, buy her things on a regular basis, take her out regularly, constantly provide compliments and pretend as if other women don’t exist on planet Earth.  Is this fueled by an imbalanced ego that creates an insatiable “appetite”?

Now, I’ll get to the men. In modern society, the ego seem to be strictly assigned to men.  It is a terrible myth that many men have fallen victim and allowed the usage to be abusive to others.  In this blog post, please note that I do respect the ‘man codes’ and will not divulge all of our secrets. I desire to not be kicked out of the brotherhood.  Haha

Unfortunately, men around the global have not felt a dire need to check one’s ego. In imbalanced male patriarchal, it is a disregarded option.  The effect has been many hurt and disappointed family/community members, rapes, fights, wars, company takeovers, unplanned pregnancies, jail/prison sentences, broken homes, domestic violence, among other things.  These are not good things at all.  Some men wonder why the general public are distrusting of their forthcoming actions. A balanced ego will help to solve the public unease.  It is understood that nature offers several levels of competitiveness. Man competes with the world, so to speak, on a daily basis.  Since one of his main roles in many societies is to be a provider, he must go into the world to hunt for what is necessary.  The competition pool may be small (living in a village, small town) to enormous (living in a large metropolis). This encourages an innate ego boost as a method of survival and personal inspiration.  When a man is deemed as “successful” to family/peers/community members, he may give all credit to self and an ego that boost self-value.  If the man does not have internal and external factors to regulate a healthy ego, then the ego inflates and causes problem.  People will begin to refer to him as “jerk”, “jackass”, “prick”, “asshole”, “bastard”, so on and continued.  Needless to say, those are not good descriptions.

As the title begs an answer…who pushes their agenda the hardest, men or women?  Please leave your responses in the comments below.  Don’t forget to share friends/family/colleagues. Thank you for your time and cooperation.

Mirroring Guilt of Admission

First, I would like to say “Happy 2017” to all! I haven’t communicated with the world via WordPress since September 2016. This is a sad fact. Let me make it up to you.

In 2016, I was afforded a whirlwind of experiences to further teach me of the many nuances of life.  Additionally, I have gained a higher sensitivity to other people’s mentalities, behaviours and survival mechanisms. As one grows, one cannot judge.  The beauty of life is variety and creative expressionism.

Life replicates itself. The process is possible through sexual reproduction. When the word ‘sex’ is mentioned, many humans become excited and/or intrigued.  Now that I have your attention, let me begin the writing.

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Over the past 25 years, I have noticed subtle, steady and major changes in American society. Since the onslaught of religious practice in United States of America, sexuality has been misconstrued, mismanaged, misinterpreted and misinformed.  It was shaped in the minds of many as being “dirty” and “sinful”. But, the 20th century challenged those notions in clever and forthright ways.  The artistes (singers, musicians, performers, writers) and “free spirits” were at the forefront of the sexual revolution.  Fast forwarding to the 1990’s…I remember it being edgy and bold to proclaim bisexuality.  It sort of took on this chic positioning in urban and cosmopolitan areas.  Going into the 2000s, I see this growing emulation of younger people by older people.  Hmmm…let’s evaluate the point just made.

It has been reported numerous times, including at Easpoet’s Blog, the dissent between older and younger generations. There is a lack of respect, value and communication between the two groups. It is particularly noted in the African-American (Black) community.  Of course, there will be dissent when families have been brutally victimized by a racist and discriminatory system.  The historic humiliation of Black fathers, mothers and children has been traumatizing, unfathomably evil and debilitating.  The genetic impression and psychological disturbance have deeply affected countless descendants of the said victims. In spite of the disconnect, some force has been bringing the families back together.

As I have walked the urban and cosmopolitan streets of Atlanta, Baltimore, Chicago, Dallas, Houston, Los Angeles, Miami, New York, Philadelphia, San Antonio, San Francisco and Washington DC, I noticed a growing trend.  The older persons (40 years and older) are presenting themselves like persons of 21 years.  From the clothing to hairstyles to lingo to style(s) of communication, is this a case of imitation as flattery?  This current generation of 13-21 years of age seems to have a very liberal and unapologetic sense of existence.  The hair is green, blue, red, orange, white, silver and/or blonde.  The tattoos are abundant. The piercings have no bounds. The clothing is androgynous and revealing.  Guess what?  The older generation has begun to look the same. Why is that?

My assessment is that the older generation has a secret admiration and reverence of the bold approach to life that the younger generation exemplifies.  Today’s youth practice an open, sincere and honest expectation in communication.  Many older persons were not afforded that freedom growing up.  The youth inherently challenges conventional wisdom and social norms.  The youth actively seeks change.  Maybe, the older generation fail to admit through acknowledgement and praise.  But, decides to express it in a cosmetic and superficial manner.  Conversely, the newfound sexual freedom of persons 40 years & older and its burgeoning societal resonance pays an indirect homage to the paradigm shift on planet Earth.

As an African male ascendant living in USA, there has been a suppression of sexual freedom, diversity and expression.  Generally, American men seem to not be wholly in-tune with masculine sexual energy and its power.  It has been limited to sole physical manifestation, as dictated by the “laws of the land”.  Our Caribbean, South American, African and Indian brothers have clearly and successfully tuned into their inherent sexual powers.  It is expressed in mating rituals and music-dance.  In the Caribbean, if a man cannot “whine up he waist” (gyrate), then he is considered no good in sexual matters.  In several traditional African cultures, the men gather and compete to show their manliness in a variety of creative ways.  It ranges from body art, display of muscularity, hunting & gathering, clothing, physical battle (wrestling, stick fighting) to financial prowess (quantity of livestock owned, substantiating amount of local currency). Some men are afforded the opportunity(ies) to contribute to society by being.  One role is a spiritual master (teacher, counselor, healer, medium).  It is told that many spiritual masters are considered to be “dual spirited”, indicating a full operation/manifestation of masculine and feminine energies.  Notably, it can express the desire for a sexual connection to feminine and masculine energies. Very interesting, right?!

Back to USA…the youth of today are non-conventional and despise being labeled.  With that being written, sexual expression is based upon feelings/desires instead of ascribed social order. “Hetero”, “Homo”, “Gay”, “Lesbian”, “Bi”, “Freak” don’t apply.  It has become (as it has always been cosmically/universally) that sex is had with whomever you are energetically connected.  The older people have taken notice and heed.  I’ve heard and seen more and more adults proclaiming an “alternative lifestyle”.  The practice of open relationships, partner sharing, polygamy, polyamory and singlehood are on the rise.  Why is it happening now versus thirty (30) years ago?  Are the youth the new social leaders of morale and free living?

Thank you for your time. Feel free to express your thoughts on the subject-matter in the ‘comments’ section of this blog post.  Until next post…

Drowning in the Sea of Opinions

The media has bombarded us with images of racially-driven crimes and discrimination.  For some reason, people are shocked and appalled that these offenses are happening in USA.  Very quick history lesson…it has happened since the inception of United States of America (as the ’13 Colonies’).  It is the core foundation of the nation.  Its Constitution and all of its ambiguity states that persons of direct African descent are 3/5 of a human.  In essence, it is lawful to mistreat Black/African people in USA.  Surely, this law has played out miserably.  In fact, it has been overplayed in society on all fronts.

A map of the original 13 colonies

A map of the original 13 colonies

Etaniel Ben Yehuda, aka ‘E as Poetlove Water’, who is a poet/writer/artist/human rights activist, asks the readers (and your colleagues, friends, neighbors, co-workers, family, etc.) “Why does ANY offense against Black people in this country surprise you?”  Yes, the heinous acts of injustice and hatred against African descendants are deplorable and sinister.  Naturally, the persons with soft hearts and living souls will feel the pain of the victims.  But, I believe it becomes a theatrical performance when you gasp and emote heavily. That is the CORE of USA…the country was built and establish on blood, sweat and tears of persons of ethnicity.

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Postcard depicting the lynching of Lige Daniels (16-year old boy), Center, Texas, USA, August 3, 1920

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In the early to mid 1900’s, lynching was the premier activity to follow Sunday morning “worship” in Christian churches.

In the advent of social media in 2000’s, the highly-opinionated American had a springboard to divulge every thought and feeling around the cyberglobe.  It seemed revolutionary and progressive.  Then, it became convoluted, annoying and provided the excuse for adults to revel in child-like behaviors (bickering, name-calling, ridiculing people, being clique-ish, etc.).  As we return to 2015, it seems to have gotten worse.  Now, we are in the age of Internet Revolutionaries and Internet Crybabies!

As my writings in the far and recent past have stated, the generations were not listening to the wise Elders. Although their voices were almost muted, the soundwaves still went out in the atmosphere and some of us caught it.  Another unfortunate thing about life in USA is that it is socially constructed on the youth element. That is very dangerous!  The Elders sit with an insight and wisdom that have been earned.  You can’t pay for it.  Much of the general public chose to follow frivolous distractions of celebrities like “who’s dating who?”, “what dress did she wear?” and “he dumped her for another woman”.  The majority of the people don’t even know these people on a remotely personal basis.  Yet, you allow the fantasy of your lives to dictate your reality.  Again, that shows the power of media.

Persons on magazine cover that offers nothing of substance to society.

Persons on magazine cover that offers nothing of substance to society.

Several years ago, progressive thinkers of various circles forewarned the American public of certain events to come.  One warning pertained to the ideal that conservatives were interested in a “race war” with the support of the National Rifle Association (NRA).  During this time, there were campaigns running in predominantly Black and Latino neighborhoods to “buy back guns from the streets”.  Some exchanged handguns for a nominal amount of cash.  Covert disenfranchisement is what that operation can be called. The act ensured that a limited amount of Black/Latino men and women would be unable to protect themselves, families and communities.  Now, each day offers a barrage of videos containing graphic images of police brutality.  Do you believe that is happenstance?  Let me answer……NOPE, NOPE and NOPE!  It is clearly by design.  If the “suspect” does not get killed, then ways will be sought to imprison the citizen of USA.  Please check out the chart below.

Incarceration rates, October 2014

According to American Psychological Association (APA), these are the incarceration rates in various nations of the world. The rates are based on figures compiled in October 2014

I urge the blog followers to do ONE thing.  Merge emotions and factual information to become the fuel for ACTION!

For any assistance in finding qualified persons and organizations to create a better world, please contact me at easpoet@gmail.com.  Until then, be courageous and consistent!