Who pushes agenda the hardest?

I am not faint of heart!  I am not to make faint of someone’s heart.  This is a real world with real opposition.  So, I gladly embrace the opposition that may come.

Wonderful people…guess what I am discussing today?! The human ego.  When in balance, it produces great and sensible actions. When out of balance, it produces treachery, fear and falsehood.

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I think I will begin with the women’s ego. Ladies, do not shoot me with a verbal/written/literal AK-47.  Just read and assess. Women fulfill many roles in many societies. They have acted as queens, military strategists, nurses, mothers, sisters, carriers of water, cooks, managers, secretaries, architects, real estate agents, community organizers and many other things.  Women are more than capable beings.  Unfortunately, women globally have been oppressed by imbalanced patriarchy, dominating religion and male chauvinism. Oppression breeds contempt. Now, who wants to be dictated constantly?  I believe it is safe to say no one.

During oppressing times for women, the psyche developed coping mechanisms, selected memory storage, unfavorable impressions of the oppressor(s) and a possible resentment towards others that appear as member of the oppressor/oppressive group.  To any logical mind, this seems to be a fair response. But, let’s look at a couple of things.  In nature, females are mothers. For most, mother equals caring. The polarity of woman’s character is viciousness, cunning, manipulative and hunters.  There are several species of female insects and mammals that are mean! Black Widow spiders kills the male spider after mating. Praying mantis will engage in a courtship. If the female is literally hunger, she will eat the head or leg of her partner after sex. There are human females that purpose to be mean and devious toward human males, as if it is their “womanly duty”.

Another thing to consider is the need for a woman’s egotistical whims to be satisfied constantly. Everyone likes a genuine compliment from time to time.  There seems to be an rapacious need for a woman to receive compliments, genuine or questionable. Additionally, many women have the expectation that a man will fulfill a long list of desires like working consistently to cover financial responsibilities, do indoor/outdoor home chores, spend a great amount of time with her, buy her things on a regular basis, take her out regularly, constantly provide compliments and pretend as if other women don’t exist on planet Earth.  Is this fueled by an imbalanced ego that creates an insatiable “appetite”?

Now, I’ll get to the men. In modern society, the ego seem to be strictly assigned to men.  It is a terrible myth that many men have fallen victim and allowed the usage to be abusive to others.  In this blog post, please note that I do respect the ‘man codes’ and will not divulge all of our secrets. I desire to not be kicked out of the brotherhood.  Haha

Unfortunately, men around the global have not felt a dire need to check one’s ego. In imbalanced male patriarchal, it is a disregarded option.  The effect has been many hurt and disappointed family/community members, rapes, fights, wars, company takeovers, unplanned pregnancies, jail/prison sentences, broken homes, domestic violence, among other things.  These are not good things at all.  Some men wonder why the general public are distrusting of their forthcoming actions. A balanced ego will help to solve the public unease.  It is understood that nature offers several levels of competitiveness. Man competes with the world, so to speak, on a daily basis.  Since one of his main roles in many societies is to be a provider, he must go into the world to hunt for what is necessary.  The competition pool may be small (living in a village, small town) to enormous (living in a large metropolis). This encourages an innate ego boost as a method of survival and personal inspiration.  When a man is deemed as “successful” to family/peers/community members, he may give all credit to self and an ego that boost self-value.  If the man does not have internal and external factors to regulate a healthy ego, then the ego inflates and causes problem.  People will begin to refer to him as “jerk”, “jackass”, “prick”, “asshole”, “bastard”, so on and continued.  Needless to say, those are not good descriptions.

As the title begs an answer…who pushes their agenda the hardest, men or women?  Please leave your responses in the comments below.  Don’t forget to share friends/family/colleagues. Thank you for your time and cooperation.

Mirroring Guilt of Admission

First, I would like to say “Happy 2017” to all! I haven’t communicated with the world via WordPress since September 2016. This is a sad fact. Let me make it up to you.

In 2016, I was afforded a whirlwind of experiences to further teach me of the many nuances of life.  Additionally, I have gained a higher sensitivity to other people’s mentalities, behaviours and survival mechanisms. As one grows, one cannot judge.  The beauty of life is variety and creative expressionism.

Life replicates itself. The process is possible through sexual reproduction. When the word ‘sex’ is mentioned, many humans become excited and/or intrigued.  Now that I have your attention, let me begin the writing.

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Over the past 25 years, I have noticed subtle, steady and major changes in American society. Since the onslaught of religious practice in United States of America, sexuality has been misconstrued, mismanaged, misinterpreted and misinformed.  It was shaped in the minds of many as being “dirty” and “sinful”. But, the 20th century challenged those notions in clever and forthright ways.  The artistes (singers, musicians, performers, writers) and “free spirits” were at the forefront of the sexual revolution.  Fast forwarding to the 1990’s…I remember it being edgy and bold to proclaim bisexuality.  It sort of took on this chic positioning in urban and cosmopolitan areas.  Going into the 2000s, I see this growing emulation of younger people by older people.  Hmmm…let’s evaluate the point just made.

It has been reported numerous times, including at Easpoet’s Blog, the dissent between older and younger generations. There is a lack of respect, value and communication between the two groups. It is particularly noted in the African-American (Black) community.  Of course, there will be dissent when families have been brutally victimized by a racist and discriminatory system.  The historic humiliation of Black fathers, mothers and children has been traumatizing, unfathomably evil and debilitating.  The genetic impression and psychological disturbance have deeply affected countless descendants of the said victims. In spite of the disconnect, some force has been bringing the families back together.

As I have walked the urban and cosmopolitan streets of Atlanta, Baltimore, Chicago, Dallas, Houston, Los Angeles, Miami, New York, Philadelphia, San Antonio, San Francisco and Washington DC, I noticed a growing trend.  The older persons (40 years and older) are presenting themselves like persons of 21 years.  From the clothing to hairstyles to lingo to style(s) of communication, is this a case of imitation as flattery?  This current generation of 13-21 years of age seems to have a very liberal and unapologetic sense of existence.  The hair is green, blue, red, orange, white, silver and/or blonde.  The tattoos are abundant. The piercings have no bounds. The clothing is androgynous and revealing.  Guess what?  The older generation has begun to look the same. Why is that?

My assessment is that the older generation has a secret admiration and reverence of the bold approach to life that the younger generation exemplifies.  Today’s youth practice an open, sincere and honest expectation in communication.  Many older persons were not afforded that freedom growing up.  The youth inherently challenges conventional wisdom and social norms.  The youth actively seeks change.  Maybe, the older generation fail to admit through acknowledgement and praise.  But, decides to express it in a cosmetic and superficial manner.  Conversely, the newfound sexual freedom of persons 40 years & older and its burgeoning societal resonance pays an indirect homage to the paradigm shift on planet Earth.

As an African male ascendant living in USA, there has been a suppression of sexual freedom, diversity and expression.  Generally, American men seem to not be wholly in-tune with masculine sexual energy and its power.  It has been limited to sole physical manifestation, as dictated by the “laws of the land”.  Our Caribbean, South American, African and Indian brothers have clearly and successfully tuned into their inherent sexual powers.  It is expressed in mating rituals and music-dance.  In the Caribbean, if a man cannot “whine up he waist” (gyrate), then he is considered no good in sexual matters.  In several traditional African cultures, the men gather and compete to show their manliness in a variety of creative ways.  It ranges from body art, display of muscularity, hunting & gathering, clothing, physical battle (wrestling, stick fighting) to financial prowess (quantity of livestock owned, substantiating amount of local currency). Some men are afforded the opportunity(ies) to contribute to society by being.  One role is a spiritual master (teacher, counselor, healer, medium).  It is told that many spiritual masters are considered to be “dual spirited”, indicating a full operation/manifestation of masculine and feminine energies.  Notably, it can express the desire for a sexual connection to feminine and masculine energies. Very interesting, right?!

Back to USA…the youth of today are non-conventional and despise being labeled.  With that being written, sexual expression is based upon feelings/desires instead of ascribed social order. “Hetero”, “Homo”, “Gay”, “Lesbian”, “Bi”, “Freak” don’t apply.  It has become (as it has always been cosmically/universally) that sex is had with whomever you are energetically connected.  The older people have taken notice and heed.  I’ve heard and seen more and more adults proclaiming an “alternative lifestyle”.  The practice of open relationships, partner sharing, polygamy, polyamory and singlehood are on the rise.  Why is it happening now versus thirty (30) years ago?  Are the youth the new social leaders of morale and free living?

Thank you for your time. Feel free to express your thoughts on the subject-matter in the ‘comments’ section of this blog post.  Until next post…

Finding Equity

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Being Black is not synonymous to anger

Being Black is not synonymous to danger

 

Being Black is not synonymous to poverty

Being Black is not synonymous to tragedy

 

Being Black is common with perseverance

Being Black is common with cultural adherence

 

Being Black is common with ten thousand languages

Being Black is common with twenty thousand ethnicities

 

The color Black absorbs all

The color Black doesn’t fade at all

 

The color Black dominants the landscape

The color Black penetrates the sunrays

 

Black is when you are suffer-free

Totally operating in autonomy

Creating new waves in a laboratory

Pixelating new additions on life’s movie screen

Cosmos-inspired textile mosaics reign supreme

 

Eyes’ vision 8th dimension that affects impact

Lives of truth genuinely smile back

Rites of passage prepares responses of tact

Deep touches of moans felt along spine, back

Incomparable is the definition of Black

 

© 2016

–E as Poetlove Water

The new book has ALMOST arrived!

Greetings Dedicated Poetry Lovers,

As you have read in the title, the second book is almost available for homes across the globe. The Cells of the Tissue That Should Feel will be the second published book of E as Poetlove Water/Etaniel Ben Yehuda/me (scheduled for Fall 2016 release).  I believe this book is the extroverted twin of The Chronicles of Air, Water and the Source.  In the first book, The Chronicles, I encouraged readers through personal experience to seek the answers to life on inside of self.  Although this was not a popular concept in the 1990’s/early 2000’s, I hold steadfast to the idea of inner development for true empowerment.  I can give thousands of testimonies of the effectiveness of knowing self and walking in your divine power!

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Now…that we have connected with self, it’s time to MAKE SOME NOISE! The Cells is not for the faint of heart or soul.  This life on Earth requires great amounts of strength, focus, determination and certainty in purpose.  Stay tuned as I provide teasers as poems over the upcoming weeks, leading to the publishing debut.  As always, I really appreciate the wonderful support that my artistic/soul expressions have garnered.  Fulljoy life!

The Funeral of Etaniel

Festive

Celebrating all he IS

Orange Blue Black

Soca music blaring

Afro-House compelling

Yes…letting the tears flow

But…mix in the cartwheels

Coupé Décalé, smiles and pleasantries

 

For the spirit has retired

Soul endured the fire

Because fires don’t consume dragons

Delectable brown body laid to rest

Weary eyes of trials by fire

Positively endless

Negatively temporal

Balance meets the area of grey

 

© 2016

— E as Poetlove Water

Is it for me or you?

Sharing space on planet Earth teaches us interdependence and appreciation of our surroundings.  The beautiful thing about this experience is that the supplies of Mother Gaia (Earth) are MORE than sufficient.  No one should lack anything!  But, we have beings that dissociate their intentions and health of ego from the larger group/population.  This develops into a terrible thing called selfishness.

Selfishness can manifest on a variety of levels.  The perpetrator may or may not be fully aware in a given moment.  But, it is best to develop a significant degree of self-awareness.  It will broaden perspectives.

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First, let’s explore the passing of a loved one.  If it is a parent, sibling or child, then it could be especially hard to accept the physical disconnect.  For the most part, that relative have been around since your inception.  Now, you must get used to not seeing-touching-feeling-hearing-smelling the decedent.  I remember when my mother’s health was declining.  I reached a realization that I/the family MUST support her in whichever decision that she makes about HER life.  She was in constant pain and I know it was wearing on her.  She transitioned in April 2013.  But, the “release” was congruent with the intuitive message that she was ready to transition in February 2013.  Most deathly ill persons “stick around” for various reasons.  It could be to make amends with a broken relationship, to reduce the burden on family/friends of the burial process or the absorption of emotions that flow from the visitor(s) to the ill person.  I would like to say this…it is always best that we allow a person’s transition to be peaceful and clear.  No one should ever feel guilty about leaving loved ones.

Next, let us look at romantic relationship.  This should compel many to leave comments. It is a popular yet despised topic to explore.  In relationships, the healthiest approach is to establish your thoughts on the solid possibility of personal development.  Energy does not lie.  If you are sensing/feeling a strong attraction to someone, then it is worth exploring. Usually, it means that the two of you are meant to have an exchange for the enrichment of both parties.   It could be very momentary or it could be for fifty years or any time frame in between.  The two parties involved are the determinants.  Clarity, honesty, allowance for trust and room for mistakes will ensure a healthy bond.  Of course, it would be easier for me to focus on all of the ways that negativity manifests in relationships.  “Not today!” says E as Poetlove Water.  Humanity is broken and imbalanced.  Only solutions should be offered, at this point in time.  Word to the Wise and Unwise:  No one owns anyone or is exclusively subjected to the life of another.  Therefore, selfishness only stifles, agitate and interrupt a beautiful flow of moments.

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Here is another thing…the naming of a child.  Growing up, I always found it repulsive when a parent names a child after one’s self.  I honestly dig not see the logic in this.  As I became an adult thinker, it started to reveal upon me why I had disdain about namesake designation.  I’ve come to the conclusion that the parent is intruding upon the autonomy and uniqueness of their offspring.  In most cases, these parents seem to place extremely high demands on the child to become what they parent wants out of life.  Parents, let’s remember that we are uniquely created and have our exclusive missions on planet Earth. Stifling a person’s true purpose in life can lead to depression, uncertainty, weakness, passivity and an UNFULFILLED mission.  Yes, we love out children.  Love is freedom and unconditional support, among other things.  I would suggest the old tried-and-true method of consulting with wise Elders or spiritual meditation to know for certain the child’s true name.  In many cultures, names carry power and high purpose.

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Lastly, let’s talk politics and religion.  Actually, I won’t do much on the two topics because people overly sensitive and too passionate.  I will say this…whenever engaging in an exchange/dialogue concerning politics or religion, please say your piece and allow others to say their piece.  Listen, listen, listen.  Just don’t hear them…listen!  Your perspective can be broaden.  Although you may not agree, it doesn’t hurt to understand the other person’s viewpoint.  At the end of the day, more people will enjoy engaging in conversation about politics and/or religion.  Why?  You listen and respect other people’s position in life.  That takes a lot of SELFLESSNESS!  Cheers

 

 

“Do I Scratch My Head or Walk Away?”

As an artiste and human being, I have always had a strong desire to explore this portion of life on planet Earth (and beyond).  I guess this makes me free-spirited, right?!  Yes, it does and I LOVE IT!

Many of my movements and decisions for life have been questioned by those surrounding me.  These persons assumed that there was no thorough thought put into making certain big decisions.  I am rarely an impulsive person.  Historically, I have been the type to plan and organize, then, make the “grand announcement”.

During some of the exploratory voyages, I decided to study certain religions/schools of thought.  I believe learned and gained a deeper understanding about my life and life in general.  Also, I appreciated the sense and structure of a communal/familial setting. Those aspects were uplifting.  Life is a spectrum of balance. So, there were negative aspects.  The most distressing was insincerity.

It is amazing how the community of persons “love” you when you appear to be a good student or devout.  When you reach the point of awakening and realization that you have outgrown the organization, then you have leadership/members begin to question your sincerity.  Once you officially part ways, there a few, if any, that will contact you out of genuine concern.

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In actuality, we are evolving beings.  No matter where you land in life, you will have to ascend or descend.  Stagnancy is not an option.  The morals of the story are that true living is developing organic, genuine connection with others and life is evolutionary. Let’s move along!!!

“I Think I am Untitled”

As a writer and human being, I am always seeking the challenge of challenging myself.  A writer’s group I have recently joined (Brooklyn, NY) provides a platform to be challenged and criticized.  It ensures that there is no allowance for a “comfort zone” when creating art that remonstrances status quo and social ills.  The result is below:

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Up the stairs

How many stairs

How many stairs?

Lead to how many flights?

 

Preparation of the legs

Reaching new height

Many stares

Upon many stairs

 

Long strides

Produces extra sounds

Creaks that peak

Around the surroundings

 

Causation of building

Muscle mass

Strong lungs

So….how many stairs?

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Eyes still staring

Seeking out flatlands

To rest joints

At the flex points

 

Views of dust

Slight debris

Welcomed to the nose

Invasion of some sorts

 

In flight

Upon a few more flights

Then I’ll reach

A much needed break

 

Creaks are peaking

Hope increasing

Tongue is panting

Patience is thinning

 

Okay now, okay now

This is it

The flatlands are here!

The extra sound as {{{ THUMP }}}

 

© 2016

E as Poetlove Water

 

The Fear of Organic Masculinity

There has been a lot of talk lately about the disconnect of older and younger generations.  I believe it is painfully apparent.  In the latest post at Easpoet’s Blog, I will not delve into that topic.  But, I would like to share personal experiences that serve as supporting evidence of the tragic nature of a non-communicative community of souls.

I have worked with youth in varying capacities, throughout the years.  One of the many things I enjoy in the line of “work” (actually, I see it as a responsibility) is the level of honesty within children.  Yesterday, I was fulfilling my duties as volunteer at a local Brooklyn nonprofit.  A fellow volunteer suggested that the male child work with me.  He refused.  Then, a female child interjected by saying “I don’t wanna work with him either. He scares me!  His voice is too deep!”  That moment alone sparked deep thoughts surrounding the embrace, or the lack thereof, of organic masculinity.

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Unfortunately, yesterday’s sentiments were not the first time I’ve encountered a great uneasiness from children.  From late teens until present times, my face has carried a significant amount of facial hair.  Generally, small children under 5 would be alarmed by seeing facial hair on a man.  Strange, huh?! I have realized that a cultural norm in USA is shaving.  It is an activity I have despised and disturbs my skin health (an ongoing problem for men of deep color).  USA’s “culture” strongly discourages facial hair in many segments of society.  Within the last three years, a man sporting a beard has been an expression “okay’d” by the dictates of fashion trending.  Is this move ‘organic’ or ‘inorganic’, though?

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Now, I will delve into entertainment for a moment.  Let us take a moment to reflect on the most popular male entertainers from the preceding sixty (60) years.  Names like James Brown, Chuck Berry, Michael Jackson, Prince, David Bowie, Marvin Gaye, John Lennon should have come to mind.  All were/are considered groundbreaking artistes for different reasons.  Allow your mind to see where I am going with this.  The common denominator is each entertainer had an overt feminine presence/presentation.  You may wonder why Marvin Gaye’s name appeared.  He was included for the same reasons as Michael Jackson, Prince and John Lennon.  These men had higher than normal singing voices.  The recording industry discovered a way to neutralize or cancel any overt masculine expressions within these men.  Please know that the assessment is not a personal attack on any of these men.  Unfortunately, they were products of manipulation of money-worshiping record executives.  Each man had millions of female fanatics.  Do women actually appreciate organic masculinity?

I continue to use United States of America as prime cultural example for a reason.  This nation’s influence in the world has been incredible.  In my opinion, it is not a good thing.  Many people global emulate the latest American cultural exports.  I would say the cultural import responsible for this is european societal norms.  As one may flip through photographs and paintings of men from greco-roman, british, pre-medieval, medieval and modern times, it becomes quite difficult to make a distinction between a male and female.  According to my knowledge, this is very intentional.  Again, I am not attacking european culture, per se.  I am providing my understanding of a lack of traits deemed masculine.  The misconstrued history books that many of us have read states that european settlers (British, French, Spanish, Italian, Dutch) founded the new land to become known globally as ‘United States of America’.  So….there you have it! The revelation has come on the reason why european culture has such prevalence in USA. ( a little humor, I hope.)

As this post scoffed at the current trend of big beards among men, there is another component that thinks positively.  I am happy with the fact that men are allowing the natural growth of facial and body hairs.  In opposition to, I do find it appalling that the crazed, psychotic fashion committee of the world has to give its “stamp of approval”.  Come on, men!  Allow testosterone and hormones do its biological/physiological duties.

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In conclusion, I am full support of the new age movements that have been happening globally/cosmically.  The influx of corrective, healing and balancing energies on planet Earth are most necessary for the continuation of life.  I am certain that EVERYONE is feeling and observing the differences in life’s requirements.  Masculinity, as it once was known in USA, was drenched in discrimination, privilege, imbalance, flared ego, misogyny, disrespect, dogma and lack of spirituality.  Now, masculinity must balance and be a full understanding with proper use and application of feminine energies.  Once the balance is in place with each individual, then fear shall subside.

Black Alternative…….you got the screwface!

Eclectic’s the name

Couldn’t hide

No shame

From the military

To the vintage, baggyness

Focus on the itinerary

Must have look

To express the insides

Again no shame

Full of pride

Because I worked

Pushed, persevered

To know WHO I AM

 

Oranges and blue

Grounded by black

Knowing thyself

Sometimes surrounded by white

Greens in cup

And on my plates

Excited by Portishead

Superblue and Metallica

Mariah’s on the radio

As tranced out to drum & bass

Plenty raves, no pills

Music making me high

Astral travels to unravel

 

Stresses and pressures

Twisted demands

Black, the mistaken curse

Male, the mistaken identity

USA, the mistaken utopia

The outsiders wanting to come

To scared to come in

‘Cause within themselves

They wouldn’t go in

I live as prime example

Jealously enraged

As this man stand strong

Never saying “fuck you!”

 

© 2015

— E as Poetlove Water